Category Archives: you asked for it

Dear Dr Sadaqat Ali, I am having a hard time dealing with a colleague. He has a big heart and will do anything to help anyone. The problem is his temper. If something does not go his way or someone does not agree with him, he yells and does not care who hears him. He[…]

Dear Dr. Sadaqat Ali, I have been in two situations which disturbed me a lot and may affect my relationship in the long run. My husband unloaded on me and scolded me for something I didn’t do. Both times, he did not even pause long enough to let me explain my side. Receiving this unproductive criticism[…]

Dear Dr. Sadaqat Ali, I head a boutique. I am struggling with two low performers and their irresponsibility for months. We upgraded our software systems several years ago, and they still do not understand how the software works. Their best performance on average lies in medium range, but there is not enough cause to terminate[…]

Dear Dr Sadaqat Ali,  I try to talk things out with my husband to reach some consensus, but he keeps backing off. Sometimes he says, ‘I don’t feel like talking about it right now, but ‘later’ never comes.’ At other times, it’s a simple ‘”I don’t know, do whatever you want.” Or “You always have[…]

Dear Dr. Sadaqat Ali, I am a branch manager at a large firm and has been facing some bizarre problems from my team. Let me tell you an interesting fact that my team consists of very sound professional people (along with human weaknesses, of course). One of my main concerns at work is how we[…]

Dear Dr. Sadaqat Ali, My husband and I are in financial distress. We have a budget, but we constantly adjust it to meet our wants and rationalize purchases we can’t afford. For example, we bought a new car without considering whether or not we could afford it. After a few months we realize our “fun[…]

Dear Dr. Sadaqat Ali, Year 2012 ended on a hopeless note. It’s not because of any financial or family crisis.  It’s because of an issue which I have considered NOT A BIG DEAL for a long time. Last year, 2012, I decided to reduce my weight but end up having 5 kg extra. As I am[…]

Dear Dr. Sadaqat Ali, I have a twenty-one years old son. He has drifted in and out of college classes and lacks direction and ambition. He spends most of his time hanging out with friends. We are two completely different personalities, I am very organized, serious, and high-strung. He is very laid-back, social, and unconcerned[…]

Dear Dr. Sadaqat Ali, I wanted to settle abroad but my mom forced me to marry. My hubby lived in UK for 6 years and when i told him that i want to go abroad he says, no not at all…life is much better here in Pakistan as compared to abroad. My mother in law[…]

Dear Dr. Sadaqat Ali, How can I convince my boss to give me the promotion and pay raise I am owed? This year I came back into mainstream office activity after resolving some my personal issues. I got more and more responsibility over the course of the year and my manager reassured me he had no[…]