Tough Love

Most people think that tough love means “kicking them out” and spoiling the relationships with teenagers. It’s not true at all. The Tough love program is designed to help parents to deal effectively with their difficult and problematic teenagers.  Tough love is a loving resolution for parents that are being torn apart by unacceptable behaviors, including drug use and verbal or physical abuse. It helps parents to discipline their teens with love and respect.  When parents are in crisis and don’t know how to deal with their children, tough love provides really effective and practical support. Parents serve as a role model for their children so they need to set an example they can learn from.  Tough love teaches parents to deal with their teenagers on the basis of merit.

Be respectful of your teen but let them know that you expect the same in return. Tough love doesn’t mean lack of love and respect. It is important to show respect to your loved one throughout the tough love process.  Recognize enviable and desirable behaviors with positive attention such as praise, physical touch and rewards. When parents are in crisis, one of the best things they can do for themselves and their children is to join a support group. They can learn from the experiences of other parents.