Author Archives: Dr. Sadaqat ali

Why Romance Turns Toxic

Why Romance Turns Toxic

To codependents, love is perhaps the highest ideal. Relationships give our lives meaning and purpose. They enliven and motivate us, validate our self-esteem, and soothe our fears of loneliness. Too often a beautiful romance turns sour. What was a wonderful dream becomes a painful nightmare. Yet when the relationship turns toxic, ending it may be[…]

How Bullies are Raised at Home

How bullies are raised at home

In present times, we know that children usually disrespect their parents. They remain angry and hold grudges against their parents, which they exhibit from their behaviors such as, arguing, using foul language, and even hitting them. In response, the parent uses their position and power to keep their writ over children. They abuse them verbally[…]

Busting Lies: The Ultimate Technique

Busting Lies The Ultimate Technique

The Importance of Detecting the Truth Truth is an essential part of life, but spotting dishonesty can be tricky. Lie-detection methods often need proper training and don’t always give accurate results. Misunderstandings can lead to errors, such as mistaking honesty for a lie or vice versa. Even tools like polygraphs have limits, as they cannot[…]

Addiction and Brain: Understanding Its Impact

Addiction and Brain

Addiction is a long-term, complicated condition that impacts the brain, causing someone to continue using drugs or alcohol despite harmful consequences. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), addiction is a chronic problem that can significantly affect how people think and make decisions. To fully understand addiction, it’s important to look at it[…]

Discover Your True Authentic Self

Discover Your True Authentic Self

Codependents often wonder what is normal. They feel insecure and wonder how others perceive them. Many tell me they don’t really know themselves. They’ve become people-pleasers, editing what they say and adapting their behavior to the feelings and needs of others. Some sacrifice themselves―their values, needs, wants, and feelings―to someone they care about. For other[…]

Do I have to Lose Me to Love You?

Do I have to Lose Me to Love You

As codependents, we lose ourselves in relationships, unaware that losing our Self is the greatest despair. When the relationship inevitably ends, it’s devastating, because we are lost. We lack autonomy because that task wasn’t completed by adulthood. Avoidance of intimacy, and the vulnerability that occurs when we open up, is a way to maintain control[…]

Are Your Parents Toxic?

Are Your Parents Toxic

Title: Are Your Parents Toxic? Understanding and Managing Toxic Parent Relationships IntroductionToxic parents can profoundly affect your mental health and self-esteem. They often fail to respect their children as individuals, refuse to take responsibility for their actions, and rarely apologize. These toxic behaviors can stem from mental health disorders, addiction, or unresolved trauma. If you’ve[…]

Deprogramming Codependent Brainwashing

Deprogramming Codependent Brainwashing

Codependency is based on false, dysfunctional beliefs that are learned from our parents and environment. Recovery entails changing those beliefs, the most damaging of which is that we’re not worthy of love and respect – that we’re somehow inadequate, inferior, or just not enough. This is internalized shame. Last year, I published a blog, “Codependency[…]

Love Bombing as a Narcissistic Attachment Style

Love Bombing as a Narcissistic Attachment Style

Have you ever been swept off your feet by someone showering you with intense affection, only to have them abruptly lose interest? This phenomenon, known as love bombing, is often linked to narcissistic attachment styles and can leave victims feeling confused, betrayed, and heartbroken. In this article, we delve into the psychology of love bombing,[…]

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